THE QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS THAT YOU HOLD IN YOUR LIFE LARGELY DECIDES THE VERY QUALITY OF LIFE THAT YOU LIVE..... IS THAT SO?????

What is the basis of relationship? First of all, why do human beings need a relationship? Relationships are formed on different levels. There are various types of relationships to fulfill different types of needs. The needs may be Physical, Psychological, Emotional, Social, Financial, Political------- they could be of any kind. Whatever the type of relationship, the fundamental aspect of it is that you have a need to fulfill. "No, I have nothing to get..... I want to give it?" Giving is also as much of a need as receiving isn't it? 

Now for whatever purpose we have formed a relationship, if those needs and those expectations are not fulfilled, the relationship will go bad. We may claim many things, but when your expectations are not fulfilled, it does go bad, isn't it? 

People are forming relationships to experience a certain sense of completeness within themselves. When you have a good relationship with someone dear to you, you feel complete. When you don't have that, you feel incomplete.  Why is this so???? There are expectations, the expectations that most people are creating are such that there is no human being on the planet who could ever fulfill those expectations. Especially in this man- woman relationship, the expectations are so high that even if you marry a God or a Goddess they will fail you. The expectations are so unrealistic that no human being can ever fulfill them. But if you understand what is the source of this expectation, you could form a very beautiful partnership.

In the process of holding a relationship, at the first moment of meeting, the expectations may be common, but at every step that we take in life, the expectations may become different. One person may be consistent with the same expectations throughout his life; another person's expectations may be changing because his perception & experience of life is changing. Then relationship can become a great conflict. 

Why have we sought a relationship? If you do not have any kind of relationship in your life, you become depressed. Fundamentally, you are seeking a relationship because you want to be happy, you want to be joyful. Or in the other words, you are trying to use the other as a source of your happiness. That means your happiness is not on self - start. If you put your happiness on self- start, and if you are happy by your own nature, relationship will become a means for you to express your happiness, not to seek happiness. 

Human beings should always focus on hoe to enhance their way of being. Whether it is your profession, your relationship or whatever else in your life, it will happen to it's best only when you are in enhanced. If you do not enhance this, and you try to manage all those things, it is going to be very stressful. Relationships are probably causing the maximum amount of stress on this planet.

                    By Sadguru