CCET, CHANDIGARH- NSS CAMP 18-03-2021

Today, I was invited at Chandigarh College of Engineering & Technology on NSS Camp to speak on self- confidence and Personality Development. I thought to share this all with my readers also.....

So..... I'm going to share the....... Secrets no one ever told you......

Self- Confidence: - Self-Confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strength and weaknesses well and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively and can handle criticism.

On the other hand, low self confidence might make you feel full of self doubt, the passive or submissive or have difficulty trusting others. You may feel inferior, unloved or be sensitive to criticism. Feeling confident in yourself might depend on the situation.

For instance, you can feel very confident in some area such as academics but lack confidence in others, like relationships. Having high or low self confidence is rarely to your actual abilities and mostly based on your perceptions. Perceptions are the way you think about yourself and these thoughts can be flawed.

Low self confidence might stem from different experiences, such as growing up in unsupportive and critical environment, being separated from your friends or family for the first time, judging yourself too harshly or being afraid of failure. People with low self confidence often have errors in their thinking.

How to increase your self confidence.

1. Recognise and emphasize your strengths. Reward and praise yourself for your efforts and progress 

2. When you stumble on an obstacle treat yourself with kindness and compassion don't do well on failure.

3. Set realistic and achievable goals, Do not expect perfection. It is impossible to be perfect in every aspect of life.

4. Slow down when you are feeling intense emotions and think logically about the situation.

5. Challenge making assumptions about yourself, people and situations.

6. Recognise that past negative life experiences do not dictate your future.

7. Express your feelings, beliefs and needs directly and respectfully.

8. Learn to say no to unreasonable requests.

Personality Development: - Who do you think of when you hear the word "Personality"?

Barack Obama????Amitabh Bachan???? Sachin Tendulkar?????

Probably all 3,,,,,, Right?????? 

All of them are famous for their striking personalities that made an impression on people. What makes them stand out is their distinctive personality that inspires millions of people.

What does personality mean?

It's a collection of trails, behaviour and attitudes that define a person. It's all about building your capacities, nurturing your talent, enhancing new skills sets, working on your weakness and transforming them into strengths.

You!!!!!! As an individual, have unique skill sets and to be a more charismatic person, you have to develop your inner self as well as your out self.

Why it is important to develop one's personality?????

1. It enables you to discover your qualities and empowers you to make the right decisions amd to choose wisely.

2. It builds that one winning quality in you - confidence. Confident people are more equipped to succeed in the long run.

How to develop your personality?????

You can develop it for the better play to your strengths and works on your weakness. Don't compare yourself with others. Be kind to yourself. Recognise that you too deserve care and concern so start understanding your true self.

Recognise that making and failing is part of life. So, do not be hard on yourself when you commit a mistake or fail and indulge in self- critical thoughts.

Don't over think and over analyze. Neither let any negativity like Shame, Anger, Jealousy or Greed stay in your consciousness for too long, instead, learn to take it easy, forgive easily and drop grudges against people as soon as possible.

Be a better communicator by always staying enthusiastic.

Do things with style, ads zing to your personality. The secret to doing things with style lies in working with passion and a relaxed mind.

Be a lion in the face of danger, don't give into pressure, and face every challenge confidently.

Personality does not mean that you should determined by your appearance, behaviour, attitudes, education, values and characteristics.

Dress up well, according to occasion. It plays a major role in personality development.

Only good looking will never be sufficient to take you forward in life or help you in your relationship with people. Instead, use your social skills. Try to make use of positive gestures while interacting with others and watch our for your body language too.

Everyone has their limitations and alao has positives. These positives are what you need to concentrate on. Know your strengths. Acknowledge them and work with them.

Whatever you learn and however little you know, use it well. Express yourself and always do, what you say.

Keep a smart head and keep cool. Don't copy anyone. Create your own personal style, don't doubt yourself. Be an active listener learn to have patience and focus on your communication skills. Be polite and be gentle with your words.

Don't shout or be aggressive. Accept and recognise your weak points. Learn new skills, language and enroll yourself in new small courses like grooming, personality development, spoken English etc. It will make you more productive.

Ethics: - Honesty, Loyalty, Integrity (stay on your principles), Respect, Selflessness, Responsibility, Get clear on your priorities, Write down your goals, Consider your Practices to Beliefs.

So I challenge each of you, when you go home today, look at yourself in the mirror, see all of you, look at all of your greatness that you embody, accept it and love it. And finally, when you leave the house tomorrow, try to be more confident, promised yourself that you will going to enroll yourself in new course and will enhance your personality by adding more skills.

At the end my heartfelt thanks to Jaswanti ma'am, faculty and students of Chandigarh College of Engineering & Technology, sector- 26, Chandigarh for giving me chance to share my experiences with all of you.